Two of my engaged cousins broke off their engagments for guys they said are supposedly better. How much better we have no idea. But one thing about it is that both their fiance were from rich family backgrounds. Which was why their affairs stirred a big hooha amongst family members esp the aunties. I don't understand most of aunty ideas usually but this time round, I'm standing on the pragmatic side. Why on earth let a rich guy go?? Especially when he' so besotted with you??

Maybe that's the problem. Having a besotted boyfriend is just like having a pet. Every decision has to be made by you coz they don't want to upset you. Every comment by you is greeted with an "orh" "ok" "alright" & no other reactions can be seen. Just like they say "your wish is my command". Geez. It drives me up the wall countless of times. & I only manage to get down only about once a month. & when I do stay on ground finally, its only to have me driven up again. Not to mention that such boyfriends hover over you like second-skin, hoping to attend to your every need.

I've seen them at family gatherings. They are shy, shi wen type. The scholar kind. A.K.A the boring kind. One of the cousins actually told us he's so boring that his idea of fun is watching a midnight show. Nothing else! coz he has to lead a healthy lifestyle. I don't deny its admirable but that's boring. Now that she dumped him for a younger model, he must be resentful. After all her business was helped by him. Wahahha set up shop for girlfriend & her xiao bai lian. I do pity him. The other one's almost the same; boring ugly boring sad boring moody boring. But he's the stingy kind. Maybe that explains why he's rich. The whole family must be scrimping and saving. Like those auntie cutting out coupons from papers & mags whenever there's voucher kind. Hey! Those can save you loads okies!

The current boyfriends may be hip. They may have fun now. But when it comes to settling down, the second-skin boyfriends will always win hands-down. No doubt couples should have fun. Fun spices up the life. But you don't spend the rest of your lives in bed. Marriage is bulit on financial ability & commitment as well. These fun types won't be tied down by a family. Most probably they'll hope to feed off you as well. Money may not bring happiness but without money, happiness is a definite no-no. That's when a guy whom the lady can dependent on is needed.

My dad says a girl can choose 2 types of husbands & that will determine the quality of life they'll lead. They are Mineral Water & the Flavoured Drinks.

Mineral Water:May be bland. Tasteless and boring. Like I mentioned, the most exciting thing they'll do is watch a midnight horror show. They are good for your health though. Early sleeping habits prolongs life. & though it may be easily acquired, the wealth of minerals is absorbed differently by each individual. But no matter what minerals taken in, it's always for the best of your health. These water guys takes care of you. They strive to give you the best and protect you. Only then is there a chance of happily-ever-after.

Flavoured Drinks: In contrast to the bland water, it adds a interesting element to life. It has bubbles to bloat you on happiness and sweet tastes to keep you lingering on coupledom. All of us love coke/beer/pepsi/ice lemon tea/etc etc. But when consumed for a long period, it rots your insides. When the bubbles are no longer available and the sweetness has turned bland, the assumed happily-ever-after no longer applies. That's when you have to dump the coke for water. But by then, what kind of a water wants you? Those murky cant-consumed-from-the-tap kind of water. You'll return to round one all over again.

Just like Coco's Bei Ai De Nui Ren, I can't get up from every failed relationship only to return to the game again. Women don't have forever.

At the end of the day, I want my Mineral Water. He may be lifeless, bland and plain old boring as well as common. But I can change him by adding that slice of lemon peel and leaving it in the fridge to cool. I can add any kind of peel to change his taste according to my preferrences. A coke or beer can never be changed by me. They will only give me trouble if not pain.